Therapeutic Approaches
At the core of my practice is a commitment to using evidence-based therapeutic modalities to support individuals, couples, and families. Below, you’ll find an overview of the key approaches and techniques I use, each designed to address a variety of challenges and create meaningful growth.
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The Gottman Method is a research-based approach designed to strengthen relationships by improving communication, managing conflict, and building deeper connections.
Key Techniques:
Identifying and addressing the "Four Horsemen" (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling).
Developing "Love Maps" to understand your partner’s world.
Creating shared meaning and rituals of connection.
Ideal For: Couples seeking to enhance their relationship to overcome challenges or to deepen their bond.
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EFT focuses on building stronger emotional bonds by helping individuals and couples identify and express their underlying feelings in a safe and supportive environment.
Key Techniques:
Facilitating "repair dialogues" to address fears and insecurities.
Reframing negative interaction cycles.
Exploring emotional disconnection and healing wounds, especially in cases of compulsive behaviors.
Ideal For: Couples and families working through unresolved emotional pain or disconnection.
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Family Systems Therapy views the family as an interconnected system, where each member’s behavior influences the whole group.
Key Techniques:
Creating genograms to explore relational patterns.
Identifying and addressing dynamics that contribute to tension or conflict.
Ideal For: Families navigating transitions, conflict, or blended family dynamics.
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CBT focuses on identifying and reframing negative thought patterns to promote healthier behaviors and emotional well-being.
Key Techniques:
Challenging and replacing distorted thoughts.
Using practical exercises to build empathy and understanding.
Addressing compulsive habits by replacing them with healthier behaviors.
Tackling impulse control challenges, such as gambling or other behavioral compulsions, to reduce harmful habits.
Ideal For: Individuals, couples, and families experiencing anxiety, depression, compulsive behaviors, or interpersonal challenges.
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IFS helps individuals address internal conflicts by understanding the "parts" within themselves, forging self-compassion and resolution.
Key Techniques:
Exploring and healing internal conflicts driving compulsive behaviors.
Building self-leadership and emotional balance.
Ideal For: Individuals and couples addressing trauma, compulsive behaviors, or emotional disconnection.
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Narrative Therapy empowers individuals to rewrite the stories they tell about themselves, shifting focus from problems to strengths and possibilities.
Key Techniques:
Exploring how life events shape identity.
Reframing challenges as opportunities for growth.
Ideal For: Individuals and families seeking to overcome limiting beliefs and ensure resilience.
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Gestalt Therapy is a humanistic approach that emphasizes personal responsibility and focuses on the individual's experience in the present moment. It aims to increase self-awareness and integrate various aspects of the self to achieve personal growth.
Key Techniques:
Encouraging dialogue to explore inner conflicts or unresolved issues.
Focusing on the present moment to heighten self-awareness.
Incorporating body awareness to uncover emotions tied to physical sensations.
Ideal For: Individuals seeking to enhance self-awareness, resolve past conflicts, and achieve a more integrated sense of self.
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Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples transform conflict into opportunities for healing and growth. It explores how early experiences shape relationship patterns, fostering deeper understanding and empathy between partners.
Key Techniques:
Structured communication exercises to improve connection and mutual understanding.
Encouraging empathy and compassion by reinterpreting partner dynamics.
Facilitating discussions about changes that promote mutual growth.
Ideal For: Couples who want to strengthen their connection, resolve recurring conflicts, and understand the unconscious influences shaping their relationship.
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For mixed or multicultural families, cultural sensitivity focuses on celebrating diversity while merging understanding and integration.
Key Techniques:
Facilitating discussions about cultural and religious differences.
Creating rituals that honor diverse traditions.
Bringing an appreciation of diverse cultural backgrounds, beliefs, and practices during counselling sessions.
Ideal For: Mixed families navigating cultural or religious tensions.
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This approach teaches practical tools for managing disagreements constructively, reducing tension, and ensuring cooperation.
Key Techniques:
Role-playing exercises to practice active listening and “I” statements.
Establishing family meeting protocols.
Ideal For: Families and couples experiencing recurring disagreements or communication breakdowns.
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Mindfulness techniques promote awareness and presence, helping individuals and families manage stress and improve emotional regulation.
Key Techniques:
Guided meditations and grounding exercises.
Incorporating mindfulness into daily routines.
Reducing compulsive behaviors and increasing presence in relationships.
Ideal For: Individuals and families looking to reduce stress and enhance connection.
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Strengthening communication between partners is essential for a healthy relationship. These exercises help create understanding, empathy, and connection.
Key Techniques:
Active Listening: Partners take turns speaking and paraphrasing each other’s words to ensure mutual understanding.
"I" Statements: Expressing feelings without blame to reduce defensiveness and encourage constructive dialogue.
Reflective Listening: Validating each other’s emotions and clarifying intent to minimize misunderstandings.
Ideal For: Couples aiming to improve communication, rebuild trust, or deepen their connection.
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Trauma-informed therapy provides a safe and empathetic space for individuals and couples to process trauma and its impact on their lives and relationships.
Key Techniques:
Emotional Safety Practices: Establishing trust and minimizing triggers during sessions.
Exploration of Trauma Triggers: Identifying and understanding the effects of past trauma on current behaviors and relationships.
Empowerment-Focused Strategies: Encouraging resilience and providing tools for healing and emotional regulation.
Ideal For: Individuals and couples who have experienced trauma and are seeking to rebuild trust, connection, and emotional balance.
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Behavioral scheduling provides structure for individuals and couples struggling to balance activities like gaming or online engagement with other life priorities.
Key Techniques:
Establishing schedules that balance time for gaming, family, and responsibilities.
Setting goals to prioritize meaningful shared activities.
Encouraging accountability for time management.
Ideal For: Couples and families looking to restore balance and reduce conflicts over time allocation.
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These strategies focus on helping partners express their needs and frustrations constructively, minimizing reactive or defensive interactions.
Key Techniques:
Teaching self-soothing techniques to manage emotional escalations.
Guiding partners in articulating emotions in non-confrontational ways.
Encouraging active empathy to understand each other’s perspectives.
Ideal For: Couples and families navigating emotionally charged situations or conflicts.
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Reintroducing non-digital activities fosters connection and builds a sense of shared purpose for couples and families.
Key Techniques:
Planning and engaging in activities like cooking, hiking, or game nights.
Reinforcing teamwork through collaborative tasks.
Rediscovering interests that strengthen bonds outside of screens.
Ideal For: Families and couples seeking to rekindle connection and create positive shared experiences.
How These Approaches Come Together
Each therapeutic modality is specific to your personal circumstances, and I often integrate multiple approaches to address your specific goals. If you are an individual seeking clarity, a couple working to reconnect, or a family navigating change, my approach is designed to support meaningful and lasting transformation.
Ready to explore how these methodologies can support your journey? Contact me today to take the first step toward growth and connection.

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