My Philosophy & Therapy Process

My Approach to Couples Therapy

When your relationship feels broken or worn down by misunderstandings, betrayal, or disconnection, it’s natural to wonder if things can be repaired. As a couple’s therapist, I believe every relationship deserves the opportunity to grow and heal—even if the path forward feels uncertain or challenging. 

My role isn’t to direct you toward a specific outcome but to support you and your partner as you discover your own path. Whether that means strengthening your bond or parting ways with mutual understanding and respect, we’ll explore what is possible together.

Addressing Common Challenges In Relationships

Relationships face a wide range of challenges that can strain even the strongest bonds. You may be experiencing:

  • Communication breakdowns that leave you feeling unheard or misunderstood.

  • Betrayals of trust, including infidelity or financial dishonesty.

  • Intimacy struggles or sexual disconnection.

  • Behavioral compulsions, such as gambling, internet/gaming, or pornography, that affect trust and intimacy.

I specialize in helping couples navigate these challenges with a dynamic and personalized approach. I work with you both as a couple and individually to explore and support your personal and shared journeys.

Rebuilding Communication & Trust

For many couples, disagreements and conflict are inevitable. In fact, healthy conflict can lead to growth. However, patterns like criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling (often referred to as Gottman’s “four horsemen”) can make arguments toxic and erode connection.

My training in Gottman Therapy, Imago Therapy, and Gestalt Therapy equips me to offer practical, research-based tools to improve communication and resolve conflict in healthier ways. Through techniques like mirroring, validation, and empathy, I help you and your partner connect and communicate effectively—even during difficult conversations. This process isn’t about winning or losing. Couples counseling means deepening understanding and building resilience in your relationship.

Healing From Betrayal & Behavioral Compulsions

Betrayal can take many forms, from emotional or physical affairs to financial secrecy. Behavioral compulsions like excessive gaming, pornography, or gambling can also disrupt trust and intimacy. These challenges can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or uncertain about how to rebuild.

Rebuilding after such breaches takes time, patience, and dedication. My structured approach helps couples navigate these challenges with accountability, empathy, and gradual healing. Together, we’ll create a framework for addressing wounds and regaining trust—not just to repair what was lost, but to build something even stronger.

Working Together Towards Growth

We all know there is no one, universal “perfect” relationship. Couples therapy is forging an honest, compassionate, and resilient connection between you and your partner. Even if you and your partner leave therapy feeling more unified than ever or discover that parting ways is the right choice, I’m here to help you find clarity, release resentment, and uncover tools that support healing.

If you’re ready to take this journey, I invite you to reach out. Let’s work together to create a partnership that is healthier, more connected, and true to who you both are.

Couple seeking therapy and rebuilding communication and trust

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  • I have worked with Zev Berkowitz for the past 2 years and would highly recommend. Zev is inviting and easy to talk to but challenges you to work on yourself and the issues that you may be facing. We worked on couples therapy first and now I continue to use Zev as a personal therapist to work on my personal challenges. He is also very flexible with his schedule, and always available to talk or even text.

    RAPHAEL TAVARES

  • I've been having sessions with Zev for several months now. This has truly been an incredibly transformative experience and has helped me so much with my mental health. Highly recommend!

    LIAM BROWN

  • Zev Berkowitz has demonstrated dedication, commitment, and support. As a therapist, he specializes in unraveling difficult patterns, resolving conflicts, developing self-awareness and understanding, and facilitating self-processing. Zev has been a pivotal partner in my personal reinvention, and I have grown tremendously with his help. For individual or family counseling, I strongly recommend Zev Berkowitz.

    REBECCA HUNT

  • My spouse and I were at our lowest point after infidelity shattered our trust. Working with Zev was nothing short of transformative. He helped us confront the pain and rebuild trust step by step, teaching us how to communicate openly without fear or judgment. Zev’s compassion, expertise, and structured approach gave us tools to heal and reconnect on a deeper level than we ever thought possible. We are now in a place of mutual respect and understanding, and I can honestly say we wouldn’t have made it without him.

    JOEL R.

  • Zev’s work with us on porn addiction was life-changing. He created a safe space where we could address the impact it had on our relationship without shame or blame. His nonjudgmental guidance helped us understand the root causes and develop healthier ways to reconnect emotionally and physically. The exercises he introduced for intimacy were thoughtful and effective, allowing us to rebuild a closeness we hadn’t felt in years. Zev’s insight and practical tools gave us a renewed sense of hope and love in our marriage.

    ESTHER C.

  • Before meeting Zev, my spouse and I couldn’t have a conversation without it turning into a heated argument. We felt stuck in a cycle of blame and defensiveness. Zev taught us practical, easy-to-understand communication techniques that completely changed how we interact. From learning to listen with empathy to expressing ourselves clearly and calmly, his approach made conflict manageable instead of destructive. Zev showed us that disagreements don’t have to break us—they can bring us closer. We’ve never felt more connected or equipped to handle challenges together.

    SOL J.

  • Zev’s expertise in the Gottman and Imago relationship techniques truly saved our marriage. He showed us how to identify and break free from toxic patterns that were tearing us apart. Through the Gottman Method, we learned how to recognize the "Four Horsemen" behaviors and replace them with healthier ways of communicating. With Imago Therapy, Zev guided us through powerful exercises that helped us deeply understand and validate each other’s experiences. These methods were practical and eye-opening, creating a level of empathy and connection we’d never felt before. Thanks to Zev, we now have a strong foundation and the tools to keep growing together.

    JULIE D.

  • Zev’s support was life-changing for me as I struggled with severe anxiety and frequent panic attacks. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and other techniques, he helped me identify and challenge the thoughts fueling my anxiety. Zev also taught me practical tools to manage panic attacks in the moment, which gave me back a sense of control over my life. His calm and compassionate approach made me feel understood and empowered. I can now face situations that once felt impossible, and I’m so grateful for his guidance.

    CHAIM M.

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